Stop Saying You’re Fine
“Given the choices between accomplishing something and just lying around, I’d rather lie around. No contest”
– Eric Clapton
Who this can help
People who struggle on the daily with sticking to a plan, people falling short of reaching their goals, people who are reaching their goals and want to get to the next level, people who are feeling great and want to learn more about their mindset, people who like learning about behavioural techniques, anyone who lives and breathes and is trying to live the best possible life.
If you are feeling GREAT, then great! This is still a good exercise to work on identifying your mind set. It can help you in all aspects of your life!
Stop hitting the snooze button
But it feels so good! Why should we stop?
- it allows you to delay the inevitable with minimum effort
- every good intention can be wiped away with the press of a button
How to know if you are feeling stuck: Answer with the first answer that comes to mind!
- You know you want more from life but don’t know how to get it
- You say you are fine, but you know you want something more
- It’s a vague feeling that something is a little “off”
- It feels like something is missing from your life but you aren’t sure what
- The words fulfillment, happiness, purpose and empowerment may come close to some examples of what you feel you are missing
- Instead of taking action, you use excuses or rationalizations
- When you are stuck, the major task is deciding if you are going to change at all. Are you going to face an overwhelming amount of resistance to create a small change in your life and build on it?
Identify your Mind-Set
Your success will depend on your ability to rely on your powerful self to make decisions. It is all about becoming more powerful in small ways on a daily basis. Big leaps and drastic measures are rarely effective in real life. You need to take action even when you don’t feel like it.
|Identify Your Negative Mind-Set||CHICKEN||JERK|
|What you say to yourself||I can’t, I’m not ready, I’m scared. What if I fail? I don’t know how. I might make a fool of myself. People will laugh. I’m not good enough. What if…||I don’t want to. Why me? I don’t feel like it. It doesn’t matter anyway. It’s his fault; he should have to fix this. What difference is it going to make? If only I had…I should have…|
|What you feel inside||Fear, nerves, anxiety, worry, concern, paralysis, overwhelmed, unworthy||Anger, frustration, blame, smarminess, sarcasm, resignation, stubbornness, annoyance, impatience|
|What you should expect||It will be terrifying and radical to force yourself to make a small change, but once you make a small move and see that you didn’t die, and it wasn’t as painful as you thought, the fear will slowly start to resolve. With every push forward, the chicken in your mind will get quieter and quieter until you can’t hear it at all.||You must go head to head with the jerk in your brain. You will argue against taking action. You will call yourself and the idea itself “stupid”. You will want to give up and try every way possible to bully yourself into stopping. You must push ahead. After a few hard-fought wins, the jerk will start to quiet down.|
|Your mantra||“Be quiet. I am doing it anyway”||“Be quiet. I am doing it anyway”|
No go ahead. Do it anyway.