Below are seven major areas of your life. Consider each one and figure out whether you act like a chicken or a jerk in each area. Identify it now so that you can catch yourself later;
- Ask yourself: “In what areas of my life am I acting like a chicken? What am I too chicken to try?”
- Ask yourself: “In what areas of my life am I being a jerk?”. Describe how you act like a jerk including the things you say, do, or the attitude you have. “Am I avoiding something? What am I angry about? Why am I being a jerk?”
|Identify Your Negative Mind-Set||CHICKEN||JERK|
|What you say to yourself||I can’t, I’m not ready, I’m scared. What if I fail? I don’t know how. I might make a fool of myself. People will laugh. I’m not good enough. What if…||I don’t want to. Why me? I don’t feel like it. It doesn’t matter anyway. It’s his fault; he should have to fix this. What difference is it going to make? If only I had…I should have…|
|What you feel inside||Fear, nerves, anxiety, worry, concern, paralysis, overwhelmed, unworthy||Anger, frustration, blame, smarminess, sarcasm, resignation, stubbornness, annoyance, impatience|
|What you should expect||It will be terrifying and radical to force yourself to make a small change, but once you make a small move and see that you didn’t die, and it wasn’t as painful as you thought, the fear will slowly start to resolve. With every push forward, the chicken in your mind will get quieter and quieter until you can’t hear it at all.||You must go head to head with the jerk in your brain. You will argue against taking action. You will call yourself and the idea itself “stupid”. You will want to give up and try every way possible to bully yourself into stopping. You must push ahead. After a few hard-fought wins, the jerk will start to quiet down.|
|Your mantra||“Be quiet. I am doing it anyway”||“Be quiet. I am doing it anyway”|
FAMILY: There is a family member that you can’t seem to see eye to eye with – things are getting worse, yet you know that to make your family life a more positive aspect of your life, you are going to have to take action. What do you say to yourself? What do you feel inside? Identify your mindset by using your journaled notes and the chart above.
Continue, similar to the above example for each category. What could you improve in each of the categories? What could you do that would launch each category from good to great? Journal about each one – notice where you tend to lean towards negativity, and focus in on that spot. Identify the mind set, notice that what you are feeling is perfectly normal and to be expected. Then, be quiet and do it anyway.
In any area of your life that you want to change, just do the things that you don’t want to do.
If you only ever did the things you don’t want to do, you’d have everything you ever wanted.
What’s one area of your life that you want to change? Let’s focus on the area that gained the most attention from you in the journaling exercise. List all the things you know you need to be doing, but (for whatever reason) don’t feel like it.
Good. Now be powerful: Do everything you just listed, even though you don’t feel like it.